When we first met Hayden, we discovered he would steal Nina's jewelry, take it to school & sell it for snack money. I was wowed by the fact that a 6 year old child would think of such a thing in detail. Two years later, Hayden is still stealing. He stole $200 dollars from Nina's piggy bank for snack during break at dance class. He obviously didn't realize how much $200 was & thankfully the person in charge of the snack counter called me to verify whether Hayden should have that much money with him or not. Then he was stealing snack from our pantry, sneaking it up to his room so he could chow down, I figured out that is why he wasn't eating breakfast with us any longer. THEN, then he took some gum from a convenient store! The next day he went back to the store & had to tell them what he had done & do some work for them, cleaning out garbage cans, sweeping etc. Of course he had to come home & do some yuckie jobs for us as well. But that wasn't enough to deter him either. I just don't get it with this kid. If he wants something & you don't give it to him he is going to take it.
On the one hand I admire his tenacity that he doesn't take no for an answer, but the boy is 8 years old now & hasn't slowed or shown a disdain for stealing. I'm worried what he is going to be like as he grows older & more clever. I will reiterate Hayden will either be a terrific business person or a really bad criminal.
Monday, November 21, 2011
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Hayden nominated himself to run for secretary in our local 4H club. He did great & since this is political in nature, I was in my element. I love this stuff! Anyway we made posters, H put on his dress clothes & tie, handed out candy, and delivered a speech. Best part is he won! Here is Hayden delivering his first public speech! Hayden's 4H Speech
November already
Last I wrote summer was just ending. A lot of things have happened since then & I have to say life has been pretty exciting.
First of all turns out Nina wasn't pregnant after all -- thank the Lord -- she just wanted everyone to think she was, why? we will never understand the workings of a twisted mind. I have to say if you have to win friends by lying about being pregnant you are most likely hanging with the wrong crowd. Seems pretty obvious to me guess not to everyone, go figure.
Nina is now working at a job where the managers know her troubles & are working with her an us to keep Nina honest. I am grateful, she also brings home a time clock ticket indicating when she clocked in & out for breaks as well. She is taking some college courses and seems to have her head screwed on correctly for the time being. We even gave her a raise due to her performance here at the house improving, I couldn't be happier about that.
Secondly Hayden is now part of the family officially. The adoption is final and it feels different for some reason. We actually have a little boy that is basically ours. Weird.
Thirdly, Hayden has finally turned a developmental corner. It is neat to see him evaluate peers behavior. He knows they are being "bad" & wants no part of it. He will stand back & just observe. We are working with him on what is appropriate, now that he is aware of what is inappropriate. I think this is really neat & I am truly encouraged.
We have been able to leave him without our supervision for periods of time now & when I pick him up, caretakers will actually look me in the face to say Hayden has been good. When they can't look you in the eye you know something is amiss. ha
Scholastically, Hayden is doing well. In his many clubs he has had to preform against his peers, reading out loud, solving problems etc and he, in most cases is the best reader in the group, or is able to figure out things before any other students. This is especially encouraging to me since we home school and for most part I have no gauge if Hayden is in-line with other 8 year old, or behind. Seeing him performing amongst his peers, he is ahead of them scholastically.
Since the start of school, we have been involved in several activities. Let me list them Football, Soccer, Dance, Horse riding lessons, 4H, Church and scouts. Might not seem like a lot but we are doing something everyday except for Fridays and most Saturdays we have to choose between Scouts, Soccer, or Football. Sometimes leaving a soccer game early to get to the football game or vice versa. I thought things were going along pretty well, hectic but well until Hayden told me, two possibly three times, he felt rush and that we were doing too many things. I asked him what he wanted to cut back on & it was hard for him to choose. Hard for me as well since I enjoy all the activities he is engaged in.
We decided since he holds an office in 4H we couldn't stop 4H. Scouts is such a great program & I hold an office there we couldn't drop scouts. Football and Soccer will all be over this coming weekend so there are two things that will be wiped from our schedule. Of course since we have horses, we can't drop that so the only other thing was dance. Hate it but I don't think H is enjoying it as much this year as he was last year. He is doing Jazz, & I think we should have stayed with Tap. Oh well you live & learn.
So this time next week we will be three activities lighter and hopefully we can enjoy some down time, just hanging out time. Won't that be terrific!
First of all turns out Nina wasn't pregnant after all -- thank the Lord -- she just wanted everyone to think she was, why? we will never understand the workings of a twisted mind. I have to say if you have to win friends by lying about being pregnant you are most likely hanging with the wrong crowd. Seems pretty obvious to me guess not to everyone, go figure.
Nina is now working at a job where the managers know her troubles & are working with her an us to keep Nina honest. I am grateful, she also brings home a time clock ticket indicating when she clocked in & out for breaks as well. She is taking some college courses and seems to have her head screwed on correctly for the time being. We even gave her a raise due to her performance here at the house improving, I couldn't be happier about that.
Secondly Hayden is now part of the family officially. The adoption is final and it feels different for some reason. We actually have a little boy that is basically ours. Weird.
Thirdly, Hayden has finally turned a developmental corner. It is neat to see him evaluate peers behavior. He knows they are being "bad" & wants no part of it. He will stand back & just observe. We are working with him on what is appropriate, now that he is aware of what is inappropriate. I think this is really neat & I am truly encouraged.
We have been able to leave him without our supervision for periods of time now & when I pick him up, caretakers will actually look me in the face to say Hayden has been good. When they can't look you in the eye you know something is amiss. ha
Scholastically, Hayden is doing well. In his many clubs he has had to preform against his peers, reading out loud, solving problems etc and he, in most cases is the best reader in the group, or is able to figure out things before any other students. This is especially encouraging to me since we home school and for most part I have no gauge if Hayden is in-line with other 8 year old, or behind. Seeing him performing amongst his peers, he is ahead of them scholastically.
Since the start of school, we have been involved in several activities. Let me list them Football, Soccer, Dance, Horse riding lessons, 4H, Church and scouts. Might not seem like a lot but we are doing something everyday except for Fridays and most Saturdays we have to choose between Scouts, Soccer, or Football. Sometimes leaving a soccer game early to get to the football game or vice versa. I thought things were going along pretty well, hectic but well until Hayden told me, two possibly three times, he felt rush and that we were doing too many things. I asked him what he wanted to cut back on & it was hard for him to choose. Hard for me as well since I enjoy all the activities he is engaged in.
We decided since he holds an office in 4H we couldn't stop 4H. Scouts is such a great program & I hold an office there we couldn't drop scouts. Football and Soccer will all be over this coming weekend so there are two things that will be wiped from our schedule. Of course since we have horses, we can't drop that so the only other thing was dance. Hate it but I don't think H is enjoying it as much this year as he was last year. He is doing Jazz, & I think we should have stayed with Tap. Oh well you live & learn.
So this time next week we will be three activities lighter and hopefully we can enjoy some down time, just hanging out time. Won't that be terrific!
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